Riverswithfish (original poster new member #84441) posted at 8:25 PM on Saturday, May 23rd, 2026
What is your experience of the WS getting to a point where they stop demanding change before dealing with the harm they caused?
My WW wants me to address all the issues that "made her feel unloved" and will make her feel safe enough to listen to how she hurt me with her affairs. This seems like a nonstarter for me. I just cannot seem to work on things that she wants to see changed in me while she refuses to even listen to how I feel.
Argh.
In other news, she is now 26 days sober, going to AA and talking to her sponsor every day.
She has told me she realizes that all her efforts to rebuild trust over the past year were wasted because she was hiding her drinking and that led to lots of lying to me. I guess that’s progress.
Our MC has recommended we consider a marriage therapy intensive over a weekend. My WW is pushing for it. I’m apprehensive because my WW can’t handle an hour of emotionally difficult conversation without shutting down and running for a week. How are we going tot get through a whole weekend? Sounds like a waste of time and money to me.
BH, trying to R with WWDDay: 12/18/2023
