fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 1:55 AM on Thursday, October 2nd, 2025
You’re doing great! His infidelity is so hard on you and the children. But you are taking the right steps. You can never understand why he has done what he has done! So many BS describe their WS as being taken over by an alien! Document his actions or lack of action. Document his lack of effort and time with the children. He must have deadlines for completing the forms you gave him. He can try and delay the process but he can’t stop it. Know his deadlines. Make sure he is making his financial support for you and the children. You deserve the best.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Missmee (original poster new member #86349) posted at 8:06 AM on Thursday, October 2nd, 2025
So, I’ve just found a device that’s linked to his phone that I didn’t realise throughout all of this. As I turn it on a message pops up. Last night he met up with another woman! Someone by the looks of it more his age! I think he may of been a serial cheater, and not long ago the mention of " will you still want me when you find out how many people I’ve been with over the years" was probably a confession!
I’m so glad my eyes have been opened! As painful as this mess is I know myself abs the children will come out better
heartflower ( new member #83251) posted at 11:12 AM on Friday, October 3rd, 2025
Wow! What a blessing indeed. Also, more proof for legal measures. Please continue protecting your kids and yourself. And know you are doing so well. I'm sure it's all just a shock still, especially with new info coming out but you're taking all the right steps. I'm so sorry for your kids...
I remember my Ex bringing her AP and the AP's 2 kids into the house where Ex's parents happily celebrated Easter Sunday with them all (parents didn't know about the affair), while I was hearing them upstairs sitting utterly alone and helpless in my room and wondering how could anyone ever do that? I still wonder what happened to those kids since neither my Ex nor their AP cared about the damaged they caused for everyone around them.
Your Ex doesn't care one bit about your children and I'm sure realising that fully must add to the whole pile you are already dealing with. I hope the therapy is going well.
[This message edited by heartflower at 11:13 AM, Friday, October 3rd]
