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Before DDay, another friend was with a cheater. She wasn't ready to deal with her cheater. She made the comment something like, "I don't want to know, because I am not yet in a situation to deal with his cheating."
And, of course, me being me was outraged on her behalf because I loved her like a sister. I also couldn't understand how she could stay with someone who was so obviously having an affair.
Then, my POS ex started exhibiting the same behavior. I was in shock and was delusional and thought we could work towards R until he broke NC and then I filed immediately.
I divorced and lost a lot financially. Yes, I was devastated and I gained peace right away. However, she eventually divorced with financial stability and I divorced and lost a LOT financially.
Would I do the same thing, probably if I didn't have experience. But if I could go back in time and KNOW how hard and long it would take me to crawl out of debt, and with healing, I'd do exactly like she did.
I can laugh now. We were both right for our specific situations. At the time, I hadn't detached and staying in that hot mess of a marriage was sucking my soul from my body. I NEEDED to get far far away. But she had years of detaching from her husband and didn't really care quite as much and could take the drama for the sake of her pocket and her kids financial gain.
So, no judgment for those that stay or those that leave right away.
Do you.
But if I ever go through that again, I'll have the coping skills to stick around and get my ducks in a row first. Like I said, I can laugh about it all today. One really does heal, it just takes time. 😉
I hope this helps and I hope it can bring peace to some struggling. Be kind to yourself. But still seek out legal advice and protect yourself.