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Today I decided to check the phone bill. Today I was hit in the face with exactly much he was talking to her. Hours and hours. Someone once told me "if to go looking for hurt, you’ll find it". I guess that’s the truth.

Sk70:

I'm very sorry to hear about your discovery. Its a traumatic realization and your pain is justified. Its true, ignorance is bliss, but the truth will set you free.

I found out about my wife's affair via phone records as well. She talked to her affair partner for over 283 hours in one calendar year... it's unbelievable.

Keep your head up. There is a lot of knowledge and experience on this forum to help you through this trauma. I wish you the best moving forward.

I did the same thing after confronting my wife.

Not as many hours as you found, but still enough to hurt.

Sorry you're here, but at least you've got a supportive group of people here with you.

He broke his commitment to not drink. That was my fault too. I guess I drove him to it by sharing the bad day I was having. I told him if he contacts her we’re over. Please someone hold me to this.

He broke his commitment to not drink. That was my fault too. I guess I drove him to it by sharing the bad day I was having.

I'm pretty sure you know that's bullshit and you're saying this sarcastically, but just in case I'm here to tell you that's bullshit. I know alcoholism. I was one for most of my life, and in another life was involved with one who was worse than I was. He drank because he wanted to. You are NEVER at fault for his drinking. Period. End of story.

I told him if he contacts her we’re over. Please someone hold me to this.

You may want to start considering maybe it's already over. He has a lot of work to do and from what I've seen you type he isn't putting nearly enough effort into it.